It is important to remember that the goal in Tantric sex is not climax. Instead, Tantric sex is focused on the feelings of energy and the experience of the sexual contact of all kinds. Tantric sex is a drawn-out process allowing for energy to build and transfer between partners until finally a state of absolute ecstasy or enlightenment is reached. That ecstasy does not have to include an orgasm, however – it is a feeling more akin to a spiritual bliss. That being said, the multiple and prolonged orgasms reached during Tantric sex are legendary.

The Build Up of Energies

Tantric sex focuses on the energy of the body and the universe. Allowing that energy to flow between partners is the basis of a Tantric sex experience. The first stage of Tantric sex is to allow for the build up of energies in both partners. Common positions during this time include the female sitting on the male’s lap facing him. One partner should breath in while the other breaths out. Take deep breaths to truly feel the energy of your partner within you.

Tantric massage involves two stages. The first is a gentle touch of the body not including the breasts or genitals. For fifteen to thirty minutes you should simple touch your partner in a gentle, loving way using long strokes along the arms, legs, shoulders, back and torso. Take breaks and allow yourself become connected to your partner deeply through touch.

Eventually transition to over thirty minutes spent touching the breasts and genitals of your partner. Explore the ways you can touch your partner using your hands and fingers. Be slow and gentle in this exploration and trade off between partners so that both can explore the feeling of energy transferring from the fingers of one partner into the body of the other.

The final stage of arousal and build up is to allow his penis, or Lingam, to touch the woman’s G-spot or hub of sexual arousal within the vagina, or Yoni. Penetrate the Yoni and remain still so that both partners can experience the transfer of energy from one partner to the other through touch.

Sexual Positions for Tantric Sex

When it is time in your Tantric sexual experience for intercourse, focus again on the feelings of sexual response and the slow build up of energy within the body. Tantric sex is not fast and does not focus on orgasm. Positions for Tantric sex should not allow for deep penetration or thrusting which can break the Tantric experience.

Side by side sexual positions – A side by side position allows for more body contact and transfer of energy. Penetration is easy, but deep thrusting is not which is ideal for Tantric sex.

Woman on top sexual positions – When she is on top, she is able to control the speed and depth of the thrust, again ideal for the slow build-up and ongoing transfer of energies.

Prolonged Sexual Experience

Tantric sex is prolonged. Even before the male has penetrated the female, the goal is to prolong the experience as long as possible. Thrust gently at very wide intervals to keep his erection, but avoiding climax. Focus on the transfer of energy from his Lingam to the G-spot within the Yoni. Slow penetration and pauses between thrusts helps to prolong the experience.

As she is continually aroused, the sexual energy will increase as well. He should prolong his orgasm as long as possible so that she might experience a lingering, or even multiple orgasm climaxes. Once she has reached a peak of arousal and possibly climax, he should speed up his thrusts to reach climax as well.

To prolong his orgasm, he should continue thrusting once he’s reached orgasm. The initial heightened sensitivity of climax passes quickly allowing for prolonged pleasures and continuing waves of sexual energy.