Tantra is one of the oldest philosophies of spiritual sexuality. Not surprisingly, it is still popular today. The focus of Tantra is sexual energy and the flow of that energy through yourself and the world around you. Exploring the principles of Tantra include primarily Tantric sex as it is believed that energy derives from sexuality and sexual experiences.

Tantric Sex

In following the philosophies of Tantra, Tantric sex allows you to connect more deeply to your partner and increases the experience and limits of your own sexual experience. In Tantric sex, the goal of the experience is not orgasm. Rather your entire sexual experience should be fulfilling and deeply satisfying.

In Tantric sex, the focus is not on the fundamentals of having sex and how to reach climax as we are taught and practice in Western cultures. Instead, the sexual experience is prolonged to increase the experience of connection between partners and to let both partners examine and enhance the energy produced through making love.

Experiencing Tantric Sex

Tantra and sex are vastly different than the sexual experiences most Westerners seek and experience. In the Western sexual experience, there are clear distinctions to love-making. There is foreplay followed by penetration ending with a climax or two – depending on how well he performed that evening. In Tantric sex, the love making has no clear middle or end and is vastly prolonged.

The drawn-out sexual experience is not to orgasm, but to experience intense feelings throughout the process. While connecting with your partner in an intimate way, you should be completely focused on the movements and feelings with no outside thoughts or ideas about what is coming next. The body and actions are not the focus during Tantric sex. Slowing things down dramatically allows for more connection between partners and a heightened experience.

Your attention should not wander and if you find your thoughts straying, bring them back slowly. It is through this devotion to ongoing feelings and not through the desire to climax that you achieve higher levels of understanding about yourself and eventually enlightenment. It is this state of enlightenment and concentration that earns Tantric sex the popular comparison to both meditation and yoga.

Tantric sex should occur without pacing or a destination other than finding yourself through feeling. Setting the mood and the build up to those feelings of intimacy are as critical to the experience as any sexual penetration. In many cases, you can have Tantric sex without every having what is traditionally called sex. Through Tantric massage and prolonged experiences together, it is possible for both partners to reach a state of bliss and enlightenment without penetration.